Have Sex vs. Make Love

Have Sex
Make Love

Have Sex is a phrase that describes physical connection that leads to sexual pleasure, release and gratification. Making Love is all of this, but also emphasizes the deep emotional connection, affection and shared bond that develops between caring lovers. While making love is also to do with the state of mind, having sex is more about the physical relation.

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About "Have Sex" is a phrase that describes physical connection that leads to sexual pleasure, release and gratification. "Making love" is all of this, but also emphasizes the deep emotional connection, affection and shared bond that develops between caring lovers.
Partner With beloved or anyone else With beloved
Emotion Emotions not necessarily involved if you are in an uncommitted relationship. Emotions involved, often more pleasurable due to the fact that you are pleasing the person that you love.
Act Sexual act Sexual and emotional act
Relation Mostly short term, one night stand sometimes in marriage or long committed relationship Long term

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Having sex is general sexual intercourse between a couple. This is irrespective of the fact that they share love or any bond between them. While making love reflects a feeling of affection associated with sexual intercourse. Making love also implies being intimate with your partner, not only physically but also mentally while having sex is just an urge for intercourse.

One may have sex with any person, needn't be their partner, spouse, beloved etc. It can also mean casual sex with anyone. While making love is generally referred to intercourse with a partner, spouse or beloved. In simple words, with one you care for or are emotionally attached to.

edit Emotion

Having sex doesn't extend beyond sexual intercourse and more often than not, there isn't any emotion between the couple. On the hand, emotional attachment, including infatuation in the beginning of a relationship, is there when making love. It is sharing over all intimacy. Some people also suggest that making love is an expression of love though having sex isn't because love might not be involved.

edit Urge

Having sex may just satisfy one's sexual urge while making love may please a person's physical, emotional, sexual and mental urges. It can be said that having sex is merely restricted to a physical act while making love goes to include other urges also.

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A few people also might believe that having sex is when sexual intercourse is fast and quick while making love is when they're having slow and tender sexual intercourse.

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Comments: Have Sex vs Make Love

Anonymous comments (5)

April 18, 2014, 5:34am

Love is when having sex with some body elae

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March 2, 2014, 1:42am

I love my girfriend very much, we been togheter 4 years, I'm always make love with her, but the last 2 months she seems complicate with all kind of argue, now she left me and I think she is with someone else, is posible that if she is having just sex with this guy they will end up soon and later canback to the lover who is me ..... Please answer I'm stack

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December 29, 2011, 8:14pm

The difference is what you bring to the table as a human being. For example:a guy recently expressed interest in knowing me in the Biblical sense and I sensed he had never experienced love-- of any sort--so had nothing to bring to the table. I am in a quandary because I am attracted a lot but I don't have or do (la term) sex, I have too much dormant love--not possessive, obsessive-- to do the act, so to speak--with no sense of love. I fear the whole thing is doomed before it starts. I am not vain enough to think I will be the one to open him to love, rather I fear after all is said and done, I will awaken feeling used and abused--thru no fault of anyone.

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April 22, 2011, 5:50pm

How is love making an expression of love? If you love someone why would wanting to engage in sexual activity be so important when who you are in the process of love making is hardly who you actually are? Eg, "I love you for how passionate you are about Subject X; now let's engage in an activity that will shut you up."

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April 10, 2012, 12:14pm

I have a sex buddy for the past year, he has gone from intense hard hitting sex to a slower pace(watching the intercourse)his finale sounds are not so animalistic either more of sweet tone to it now. I just wanted to know is this due to emotions are now involved for him?

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