Love vs. Lust


Love is an intense feeling of affection and care towards another person. It is a profound and caring attraction. On the other hand, lust is a strong desire of a sexual nature.

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Definition An intense feeling of deep affection. Any intense desire or craving for gratification; when contrasted with love, lust usually means sexual desire.
Symptoms Faithfulness, loyalty, confidence. Willingness to make sacrifices for another. Working at settling differences. Able to compromise so that either both win or at least give the other person's opinion a chance. Desire, passion, acquisitiveness, intense emotions.
Person to Person Commitment to another. Genuine intentions. Think about other person's feelings before acting. Enjoyment of a short-term, mutually pleasurable relationship.
Feels like A deep affection, contentment, confidence. Partners communicate and negotiate appropriate expectations. Requires a lot of selflessness and polite assertiveness. You are loving your best friend. Passion, joyousness, strong desire, intense and sometimes difficult feelings of need.
Result Security, peace, a solid partnership which can provide the ideal atmosphere to raise confident, secure children. Unsatisfied lust results in sexual frustration, increased religiosity and superstition, emotional rigidity. Lust satisfied in a mutually beneficial way results in pleasure, creativity, passion, zest for life.
Effect Contentment, stability. fire, drive, activeness.
Interdependency Partnership. Can lead to codependency if not tempered with self-awareness and self-guidedness. Often the first stage of love, and can lead to lasting friendships, romantic or otherwise. When not tempered with compassion and empathy, however, it can lead to emotionally damaging behavior.
Time Period It will deepen with the passage of time. Highly variable -- it may deepen or dissipate with the passage of time.
Commitment This feeling may continue throughout one's life. Temporary commitment that lasts only long enough to fulfill desire.
Bottom Line Love is unconditional and the real deal. Interested in only what can be done for self-pleasure; lust may develop into love, but it is lust until that time.

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Comments: Love vs Lust

Anonymous comments (5)

June 4, 2012, 5:27pm

Don't understand why Cupid was chosen to represent Valentine's Day. When I think about romance, the last thing on my mind is a short, chubby toddler coming at me with a weapon.

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February 10, 2014, 6:45am

Truth is, everyone has their own definition of love. This comparison chart will not help you determine if you're in love. It's the opinion of someone who would like to think that's it. Most ideal for them, and I'm sure many people. But don't let this determine your own emotions.

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November 30, 2013, 6:01am

ok this whole thing is wrong, lust is an immediate feeling love is a thing that is grown over time lust is sexual but you can lust after things to like money etc so you would get them terminology as being : i lust after you, or as in love it is: i love you. i can say i lust you, that is not the correct English so that is why it is written as: i lust after you.
I love you is a state of being where as lust is a state of doing. so really there is no comparison just time and states of being or doing

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February 22, 2013, 7:52pm

love means everything to me

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October 9, 2009, 9:49pm

So me & my cat don't count?

— 66.✗.✗.35


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