Love vs. Lust


Love is an intense feeling of affection and care towards another person. It is a profound and caring attraction. On the other hand, lust is a strong desire of a sexual nature.

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Definition An intense feeling of deep affection. Any intense desire or craving for gratification; when contrasted with love, lust usually means sexual desire.
Symptoms Faithfulness, loyalty, confidence. Willingness to make sacrifices for another. Working at settling differences. Able to compromise so that either both win or at least give the other person's opinion a chance. Desire, passion, acquisitiveness, intense emotions.
Person to Person Commitment to another. Genuine intentions. Think about other person's feelings before acting. Enjoyment of a short-term, mutually pleasurable relationship.
Feels like A deep affection, contentment, confidence. Partners communicate and negotiate appropriate expectations. Requires a lot of selflessness and polite assertiveness. You are loving your best friend. Passion, joyousness, strong desire, intense and sometimes difficult feelings of need.
Result Security, peace, a solid partnership which can provide the ideal atmosphere to raise confident, secure children. Unsatisfied lust results in sexual frustration, increased religiosity and superstition, emotional rigidity. Lust satisfied in a mutually beneficial way results in pleasure, creativity, passion, zest for life.
Effect Contentment, stability. fire, drive, activeness.
Interdependency Partnership. Can lead to codependency if not tempered with self-awareness and self-guidedness. Often the first stage of love, and can lead to lasting friendships, romantic or otherwise. When not tempered with compassion and empathy, however, it can lead to emotionally damaging behavior.
Time Period It will deepen with the passage of time. Highly variable -- it may deepen or dissipate with the passage of time.
Commitment This is permanent commitment and stays throughout the life. Temporary commitment that last only long enough to fulfill desire.
Bottom Line Love is unconditional and the real deal. Interested in only what can be done for self-pleasure; lust may develop into love, but it is lust until that time.

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June 4, 2012, 5:27pm

Don't understand why Cupid was chosen to represent Valentine's Day. When I think about romance, the last thing on my mind is a short, chubby toddler coming at me with a weapon.

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November 30, 2013, 6:01am

ok this whole thing is wrong, lust is an immediate feeling love is a thing that is grown over time lust is sexual but you can lust after things to like money etc so you would get them terminology as being : i lust after you, or as in love it is: i love you. i can say i lust you, that is not the correct English so that is why it is written as: i lust after you.
I love you is a state of being where as lust is a state of doing. so really there is no comparison just time and states of being or doing

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February 22, 2013, 7:52pm

love means everything to me

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February 10, 2014, 6:45am

Truth is, everyone has their own definition of love. This comparison chart will not help you determine if you're in love. It's the opinion of someone who would like to think that's it. Most ideal for them, and I'm sure many people. But don't let this determine your own emotions.

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January 30, 2014, 11:00pm

The world is made up of lust so sad, so true. Its always the physical appearance or attractiveness that pulls a person in.Blinded what they think is love but actually lust.

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October 9, 2009, 9:49pm

So me & my cat don't count?

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October 9, 2009, 10:32am

Path towards pure love is really very difficult. Especially when you love someone by your hear and he/she betray you. You pay 100% loyalty and in return get nothing. This is such a situation where you will not be able to survive. I have asked many intellectual people about it. I have asked them what wins. Pure Love or Lust, every one has answered me that only, that Pure Love always wins. I have also asked them that to whom shall I listen ? My brain or My heart. The Answer from them was again same, You must listen to your Heart. Because God is neither in temple, nor in mosque, nor in church or any other holy place. He lives in your heart. Now I think I am getting back my love by Kind Grace of Almighty, but the empty days I have passed were so miserable. So if you follow my advice never love anyone by heart. It indeed hurts. In my case I didn't intend to love, but it had happened. Please never love. Otherwise you have to suffer a lot perhaps for life.

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February 10, 2013, 8:58pm

Made it better. Love vs. Lust is a false dichotomy -- most loving relationships have intense periods of lust near the beginning. Impugning lust in defense of some kind of "pure love" is absurd -- be sharing desire for each other, people grow closer, which is the foundation of love.

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September 4, 2009, 9:04am

luv is nothing to those that cherish lust

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December 4, 2009, 8:03pm

its a double edge sword with feelings and emotions but its is better to keep you heart away from that aspect you are not ready for or fully mature. heart in the end trust me

— 64.✗.✗.89


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